Altadena · Relationship Trauma
Relationship Trauma Therapy in Altadena, CA
When the pattern is older than anyone you are currently dating.
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Pasadena office or secure video. Nothing in Altadena.
One office, and it is down in Pasadena. Video is available for every kind of session I offer, anywhere in California, at the same rate.
This is individual therapy. I work with one person on their side of the dynamic rather than refereeing.
You Might Recognize
If several of these land, this is your page.
- You are excellent at the beginning of relationships and uneasy once they are secure.
- Conflict feels physically dangerous even when nobody has raised a voice.
- You over-explain, over-apologize, or go silent, sometimes all three in one evening.
- The relationship ended and the argument continues in your head months later.
Family Nearby
Proximity keeps old roles alive.
A lot of people up here live within a few miles of the family they grew up with, and the role assigned to you at fourteen tends to survive intact into your forties. You are still the reliable one, or the difficult one, or the one who smooths things over at holidays.
Those roles get carried into partnerships without anyone deciding to carry them. Recognizing which reaction belongs to your partner and which belongs to a much older cast list is genuinely relieving, and it is slower work than it sounds.
What Shifts
Not chemistry. Timing.
The realistic target is not becoming a person who never braces. It is catching the brace a few seconds earlier, often enough that a conversation can go somewhere new. That is what attachment work usually delivers, and I would rather describe it accurately than sell you something bigger.
Parts work, EMDR and somatic work all show up here. The scenes that set the pattern are usually specific, and specific is workable.
Practical Details
Fees, license, first step.
$225 for 50 minutes. Superbills for out-of-network reimbursement, no sliding scale published. Alexa Aversano, LMFT, license CA 140766, California only.
A free 10-minute call is where we figure out fit. No obligation to book anything afterward.
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